Saturday, January 24, 2009

Social Intelligence

Social intelligence is the foundation of your game. You don't have to become a party animal or trendy hipster, but in general you should learn to communicate and vibe with people.
The problem is that many of us are trapped in our own heads due to extended periods of isolation. We work and study alone, get worn out and go home to plug into the television or internet...alone... again! We have to make a conscious effort to be social.
Chilling should be a major priority in your life. Hang out more often with friends. Find places that pique your interest where you can let loose and have a great time. Bars, restaurants, stores, cafes, streets, classes, gyms, clubs, etc. are all excellent places to mingle.
Learn to make friends of strangers and keep expanding your social circle till you are totally at ease in the company of others. Without some degree of social skills, you are pretty much useless!

Some people suffered from social phobia, then they realized some of the mistakes they made that kept them from vibing properly.
  1. Talking/moving too fast.
  2. Not maintaining eye contact.
  3. Not talking at all, lost in their thoughts and spacing out.
  4. Nervous fidgeting, closed body language.
  5. Censoring words, being insincere.
  6. Getting offended when people poked fun at them.
  7. Worrying about the impression they are making.
  8. Over-selling theirselves, trying to be "cool".

All of these things conveyed personal anxiety and neediness

Nobody likes a desperate try-hard, so take another look at the above list and do the complete opposite. Do yourself a favor and RELAX because the world is your living room! You don't have to be a clown or entertainer, but people will enjoy your company when you can make FUN of anything!
The cool part is that once you get a feel for this vibe, you will discover that you really don't need to rely on patterns or routines and will invent new material on the fly.
If your vibe is right, then your game will be tight!


  1. Hello...thanks for following my blogsite...bilang ganti, naging follower mo na rin ako..salamat! TUKAYO?

  2. Nice post.. =)
    Very helpful eto kay Lolo Goryo.. zalamatz

  3. good thing i got over some of the symptoms. thanks to blogging.


  4. punta ka sa blog ko at may libreng pagkain!